Do you know who you are? In other words, do you know what image you are portraying to the word around you?
Okay, maybe that doesn’t seem very ‘realistic’ to those practical people out there. If this question makes at least 2 or 3 days of your week amazing, you will have an awesome month. 12 awesome months make an awesome year. Assuming you will live till you are 100 (because why not!), you will have an awesome life if you can keep this up every year.
Now the problem is, what one person might consider as an awesome day could be a bad day for another person. To me, writing a piece to improve even one person’s way of thinking is an awesome day. To one of my friends, a day he gets to dive off a cliff is an awesome day. Our basic driving factors are very different. So, you need to spend the time to recognize this within yourself. If you spend the time to review what drives you, you will know what you need to do with absolute clarity.
Tony Robbins talks about 6 human needs that drive us. He discovered this through his decades of experience of training millions of people around the world. When I came across this at first, I was very skeptical. But, when I gave myself more time with that model, it made absolute sense to me.
THE 6 HUMAN NEEDS ARE:
If a person prioritizes certainty, he might be someone who saves up for tomorrow and fully utilizes their pension plans. They want to have a steady and secure future. Insecurity about tomorrow scares them. Today’s generation is leaning less towards prioritizing certainty.
High risk tolerant people fall into this category. My friend who I mentioned above would fall into this category. Uncertainty might be different for 2 people. For one, having a freelance job might be more exciting due to the variety of different projects that he might come across. Another person would go climbing mountains to get an adrenaline rush out of it.
Attention seekers fall into this category. Anything you do, if it is essentially driven by how people around you might perceive you, you fall into this category. I used to feel people in this category are beneath me because they are driven by attention. But, I have started to realize that it is not what category you fall into that makes you great. It is really about whether you can recognize what personality or image you are displaying and playing to your strengths. Each and every one of these needs can be used negatively or positively. You choose what you use your strengths for. Choose responsibly, that’s all that matters.
People who want to feel a sense of union through their closely knit friend circles, family or lovers would fall into this category. Having connection or love as your primary priority will help one have very fulfilling relationships throughout their lives. The problem is, they might self destruct in the process.
Growth mindset is something that is being heavily promoted today. I love it because this is one of the top 3 human needs in my ranking! Growth mindset are people who want to achieve their maximum potential during their lives. They are hungry to learn. They might be too focussed when they do so which could lead to negligence or lack of satisfaction in many other areas of their lives.
Unfortunately, people who give charity to reduce their taxes will not fall into this category. Giving doesn’t need to be money. If giving time to people in you community or anyone around you is something you value more than anything, you rank this on top of your list. Usually successful people start prioritizing contribution as their top human need the older they get. I hope more younger people will be able to relate to this though.
Tony Robbins says that different people will have a different idea of ranking. This gives you an idea about what internally drives you to make the choices you make in your day. When I read it the first time, the first thing I thought was, ” I give equal importance to at least 4 out of the 6″. But, when I tried asking myself a different question, I knew what my top 2 needs were in an instant!
The question to ask here is “Which one of these are you most concerned with most of your days?” Ask yourself that question and test it out for just a week and see if it actually makes an impact for you. Let me know if it does as two of my top 3 human needs are contribution and connection. You might help make my day awesome in the process. So, go for it!