The choice between emotion and logic is a constant one. The heart talks to us through emotions and the brain talks to us through logic. Most of you would agree with “We should listen to what your heart says,” isn’t it? Strangely, we all secretly want someone to say this to us. It would just feel great to get that kind of support.
We hear two voices within ourselves and we when we allow one voice to overpower the other, we have finally taken a decision. Decision is simply choosing between emotion and logic. Now, let’s look at a simple situation where we make different decisions based on which voice we listen to.
Situation 1: Logical decision making
It’s 5 AM in the morning and you know it’s time to move out of the bed and get active for the day. You look out of the windows and get excited to see that you are up before the Sun. Work starts in 2 hours. You need to get a quick workout, meditate, read and get ready to go.
You know you have a responsibility and sometimes hard choices must be made. The decision was certainly logical.
Situation 1: Emotional Decision making
The alarm starts blasting into your ears and you grumpily wake up. You look through the windows and see it’s still really dark. It’s just 5 AM after all. You think, “Why the hell do I torture my body by getting up so early when even the sun is not out yet!” You just pull the blanket up to cover your face again, hit the snooze button and just lie down in bed. You just don’t feel like going today, it’s just too early to get up. “It will be fine if I don’t go today. Anyways, it’s not supposed to be a busy day,” you think.
Every day I have responsibilities. But, if you decide to not get up for a day for work, the world will not come to an end. You need to live a little. There is no harm in listening to your emotions sometimes.
Would you choose emotion or logic
In this situation, the ‘right’ choice is the logical choice. But, what happened to listening to your heart now? The truth is, we all want to be logical, but we say emotions get in the way.
In my opinion, the part that understands both the logic and emotions is our intellect. Intellect uses our logic and our emotions to come to a decision. What we think is our emotion is also a thought. What we think is our logic is also a thought. When our intellect picks one thought over another, then it becomes a decision.
Emotion is a function of our reaction to our senses. When the body goes through an experience, emotions act as a reaction. For example, if we touch a hot oven as a child for the first time, our body gets hurt and as a reaction we feel hurt and sad. So, emotions cannot be considered completely reliable by itself.
“Love is a decision – not an emotion!”― Lau Tzu
The reason why the emotion is more popular though is because emotions are not thoughts based on limits. It is boundless.
On the other hand, logic is more realistic as it is based on what can happen based on what you know from your past experience or based on some one else’s experiences. There is no room for imagination here.
“Contrariwise,’ continued Tweedledee, ‘if it was so, it might be; and if it were so, it would be; but as it isn’t, it ain’t. That’s logic.”― Lewis Carroll
Emotion and Logic are both part of us. I think there is a reason we have been given the ability to have both of this in us. They are supposed to go hand in hand. If you ignore your emotions, you will never feel fulfilled and if you ignore your logical part of the mind, you will always doubt yourself.
Logic is where we want to reach while emotion is what our body feels right now.
What do we do about it?
“At the center of your being― Lau Tzu
you have the answer;
you know who you are
and you know what you want.”
Once you know the interplay of thoughts just need to be observed carefully for longer and the answer will come to you.
If you want to decide to take a logical decision, it is your responsibility to allow your emotions to adjust to that fact. The decision being right or wrong has nothing to do with whether it was emotional or logical. Deliberate practice can help you accept logical decision making. Emotions during this time should be given consideration and whatever the decision is should be taken with an intention of allowing the emotions and the body to slowly adjust and adapt to it. After consistently applying it, the emotions will slowly match with what your logic was in the beginning. It is possible to achieve this.
On the other hand, if you decide to take an emotional decision it is your responsibility to allow you mind to read through the fine prints of why your emotions must want this. If you can allow your logical part of your brain to realize why it is important to your emotions, then you will be able to successfully match your emotions with your logic.
The problem is we try to become perfectionists when we are trying to do something new for ourselves. For example, If I want to become a photographer, every photo I take should be absolutely perfect. The truth is the first 1000 photos might not be great, but if you do not allow yourself to believe in one thought for longer and allow yourselves to deliberately try it out, I don’t really think you will have the chance.
We try to base our life based on successful people who have successfully transformed and match logic and balance in one or two important areas. 90% of them also took a long time of deliberate practice to reach this level of perfection in what they do well and that is why it looks effortless. So, be more patient with yourself. Be more patient with your body and your emotions. Not every part of our body is always aligned completely. Give them some time to get aligned and then use it to your fullest capacity.